To be fair yesterday after swimming wasn’t fantastic either! She was kicked out of the pool early for not concentrating and basically being dangerous by swimming off on her own without a floatation belt as for the past two times hey have stopped doing 1:1.
Today was back to school day 2, I was getting a call from the strategic commissioning manager and Dinky’s 1:1 for football was coming!
Or so I thought!
First off dinky said “I’ve been to school already… Not again!”
Which was fine until, half dressed, she disappeared under the washing! I had to coax her out. Thankfully we left on time. Then she was hitting me on the way to school because she is only allowed 1 toy (I found Simba before I picked her up yesterday). When it was time to line up she went hiding in the bushes, then climbed the apparatus, before going back to the bushes. Her new teacher came over and gave her direct demands, so Dinky screeched at her. Finally she gave dinky choices and she came out albeit rather grumpy and not in the mood for anyone!
I had my suspicions that her now and next wasn’t being used and that actually none of her IEP stuff was being used.
So when I asked her new teacher, she said
“I didn’t think she needed it”.
Ok so her IEP is basically a worthless document designed to shut me up and make it look like they are doing something constructive with the additional finding they get for children with special educational needs!
Fuming, I went to the head teacher.
She said she can get now and next started back up again, and I mentioned the educational psychologist, although I annoyed her by saying that I think it may help as her school obviously can’t handle her correctly. Oh well, she needs to hear it! And she said it is something they can do. I mentioned that making dinky stand in a line and wait for a bell probably isn’t the best option in the morning and she agreed, she will look at dinky coming in through the office instead.
She hasn’t had a personality transplant, she just knows I have been in contact with the higher ups, that or she doesn’t want the grief so early on in the school year. 9am on day 2 is a bit soon for annoying the pushy parents!
So she talks a good talk, but never has she walked the walk so to speak.
By 11 am the 1:1 cancelled.
I was supposed to be getting the call at 12 from high up lady. 12 came and went, no call. I get an email at 12.50pm with info about illegal exclusions and a copy of the letter to the head teachers regarding illegal exclusions.
She then phoned at 1pm to tell me that she might not be able to et a parent supporter but get parent partnership in instead. She asked if Dinky had an appointment yet and we discussed the IEP and how useless it is as the school don’t follow it!
She ended by saying that we should talk again after the TAC.
Since then I have cried and been fuming that everything takes so bloody long, and it is such a fight. It is a fight to get anything done… In the meantime, Dinky suffers.